I was on my way to a college basketball game and as I handed the woman my ticket she said, “You’re Roberta Fernandez. Your presentation changed my life!” I was stunned, trying to connect recognition to the face, mumbled something like, “I’m so happy for you,” and was pushed forward by impatient fans from behind. I later went back to find her but she was gone. I never knew this woman.
Recently I received a letter from someone I did know many years ago that said I had been the most influential business women in her life. I had no idea she felt that way.
I don’t say these things as a pat on the back for me. As a hypnotist, I help people every day. I mention this because someone is always watching. You may never know how you might affect people that you come into contact with, even for the briefest of moments. It might be a co-worker, a child or a complete stranger. It is these times of our habitual living of life that we are most unaware of the impact of our actions or words. What kind of legacy are you leaving on your trail through life?
I haven’t seen this bumper sticker in a while, but one day, on the car in front of me at a toll booth, I saw “Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty.” As I paid my 50 cent toll, I was inspired to give the man $5 for the next 9 people that came through. He must have not pocketed it for himself, as for about the next 3 miles, I had people honking and waving and smiling as they passed me. And it did more for me than it did for them. Just sayin…….
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Stress gets a bad rap - and for the most part, rightfully so. But there is a good kind of stress and it’s called Eustress.
We experience eustress at various times. Like riding a roller coaster, or giving that presentation of a lifetime. Oh, that adrenaline is pumping! When the event is over, your hormones, like adrenaline and cortisol goes back to normal.
Unfortunately the stress we experience in our day to day tends to stay with us and those hormone levels stay high. And this can cause a multitude of physical and mental issues.
The answer - Take a break from work to decompress and do something enjoyable every day. Practice gratitude to remind yourself of all the good things in life. Breathe - check out our free breathing technique in the resource section of our website. And tell yourself, if I’m breathing then I’m still ok!
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from the Apple store in the Big Apple of New York City, NY. It's my time to brag about what a great hypnotist Linda is - in her 4th year at The FARE Hypnosis Center. A fortunate client got this quote to think about last week and it's been resounding in my mind ever since. How does this resonate with you?
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Probably the most important conversations you have are the ones you have with yourself. They can be the most productive or the most damaging.
We create what’s called arbitrary relational frames in our mind. Let me give you an example: Look around you and pick an object near you. Now choose one more thing in your space. Got them? Now, of the two objects, which is better? Go ahead - make a case for why one is better than the other.
Of the the two objects, which is the parent and why? (Which came first?)
I chose a shoe and a laser printer. And I’m sure, like me, you were able to completely logic the answers to each of those questions. I know I was quite satisfied with my answers.
Here’s the point - You create everything from your perception and then make judgments about them -even if it doesn’t make sense or isn’t important.
What thoughts, beliefs and ideas do you hold that have been created arbitrarily, and though you’ve forced them to make sense in some way, no longer serve you? Sometimes it’s hard to let go of these things - and that’s where we can help.
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from Victoria, British Columbia. If I feel I must build a wall, I'd like it to be of flowers.........
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It’s more than likely that everyone of you watching has exchanged something at one time. You’ve easily exchanged a dress that didn’t fit for the right size, an awful tie you got for your birthday, or the baking soda you bought instead of the baking powder. It was really easy wasn’t it because you made a mistake or just wanted that item to satisfy you.
So perhaps it would be just as easy to think of exchanging an old worn out habit of thought or action that doesn’t serve you, for a fresh one that reflects who you want to be or that would satisfy you more. Exchange something that restricts your health or relationships for something open and able to create abundance, growth and joy.
And all of these exchanges add up, and they become expectations. And then they become habits or beliefs.
Remember, a belief is just something you keep thinking over and over again. And you know you can change exchange your thoughts any time.
Change your thoughts, change your mind, change your life.
We can help with that!
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Feel like you are always pedaling uphill, or worse yet, your chain has come off and you are stuck where you are on your path? There are many things that can keep you stuck. Stuck in worry or fear or pain, or because of these things, in a lack of sleep.
Stuck with unwanted habits like improper eating, smoking, or other activities that are really just distractors for dealing with something you don’t want to address.
Stuck with old, out-dated beliefs that may have served you at one time but now, well, just keep you stuck in a place you no longer desire to be.
Stuck not feeling the way you want to feel about yourself or living the life you want to live.
Perhaps you are doing ok but want to be the best possible version of yourself - to ride at you optimum level of performance.
At The FARE Hypnosis Center we work with you in a variety of ways to put your bike on the path wherever you are and head downhill toward your goals.
Some clients want to dig in and figure it all out - to get to the bottom of things. Some want to just let the past go and move toward the future. Some want to be inspired, to be connected with their true potential.
No matter where you are on your path, we’re going to guide you to the path of least resistance, in exactly the way that works best for you. We are like the bike - we can take you in the direction you want to go, but you have to steer and peddle.
If you are ready to change gears, to change your direction towards living the life you want, call us or book your appointment on our website today - and let us guide you up to the speed that’s best for you.
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from an Alaskan Fiord. This is a good teaser for Monday's blog. While knowing something is important, inspired action around it is everything!
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From time to time we’ll have clients who say they inherited their mother’s fear of driving, or they - the client, mom and sister - all get motion sickness in the car, or perhaps they they inherited same fear of spiders that their dad and brother have.
Sometime emotions like fear, and certain physical behaviors are mistaken for learned behaviors. When you are young you may form a certain belief, like every time you ride in a car you get motion sickness. You see that it happens to Mom, so it must be true for you, too. You see mom get sick, so now it is really true. Then you observe how mom copes - she has to have a window open, or she has to be sure she doesn’t eat an hour before the car ride, or smell anything bad during the ride. And wow, it’s true for you, too. And you know it because you didn’t open the window one time and you got sick.
And all of these ideas build. Then they become expectations. And then they become habits. A belief is then confirmed because it happens again and again.
Here’s the rub - a belief is just something you keep thinking over and over again. And you know you can change your thoughts any time. I laid the green sweater out last night, and look what I put on this morning.
Change your thoughts, change your mind, change your life. We can help with that!
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from San Antonio, Texas. I love the charm and history of the Riverwalk there. And this quote is another of my favorites. You have all the control you need in what you perceive and how you feel about something. Which Master do you choose to serve........
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