What’s Causing Those Feelings?

Last week talked about naming your feelings. Today we are going to talk about step two – identifying the cause. Sometimes step two can help us correctly identify the right feeling.
For example, if you have just lost your job, you might be feeling sad. If someone has been unfair to you, you are feeling angry. If you’ve hurt someone’s feelings you might be feeling guilty.
Naming the cause is important so we can avoid these situations again if possible, and it is a double check to see if we’ve correctly identified the correct feeling. If we don’t name it correctly we won’t be able to satisfy it appropriately.
I had a client who was trying to talk her sister into seeing a therapist. She wasn’t successful and she told me she felt very guilty. I asked her about how she had been unfair to her sister. Puzzled, she responded that she hadn’t been unfair to her, she was just trying to help her. I told her she wasn’t feeling guilty, she was feeling inadequate. The satisfying response for guilt is quite different than not feeling good enough!
Next week we’ll talk about what satisfying responses are like.
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.

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