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Did you know that the extraordinary is the ordinary? What makes the ordinary extraordinary is your perspective.  Take your lungs, for example. They aren’t particularly beautiful to look at, everyone has them and for the most part you don’t even think of them. But behind the scenes, they breathe - they give you life. And the story you tell about anything in your life, from the perspective you tell it, can take the mundane and ordinary to the extraordinary. When was the last time you simply noticed the moon in the sky, the birds flying over your car on the way to work, watched a child engrossed in the joy of a simple game, or smelled the lilacs or evergreen on your morning walk? Take time to be present in the moment. Look at something you take for granted and shift it into a new perspective - one of gratitude. Notice how it feels now. Or take an unhappy or unwanted story you’ve been telling for a long time (it’s all about what you don’t want or like) and reshape it to discover what that story tells you about what you DO want. Then vow to always substitute the new version for the old. Watch what happens. Sometime this week, sit down and make a list of everything in your life you think of as ordinary. Then, for each item, shift your perspective to find the extraordinary. Guess what - it’s been there all the time! This is what good hypnotists do with clients everyday. We help you change your perspective to help you see that your ordinary life can be as extraordinary as you want it to be! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from anyone's front porch, though these beauties probably wouldn't last long in the hotter areas of the US. These blooms appear to be fireworks in their own right and are a great follow up to our blog last Monday.
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Linda and I were talking about techniques we use in helping our clients and I started thinking about three take-aways from that conversation that really apply to everyone. First, it’s not about us (the hypnotist). We are simply the guide with some pretty cool tools and processes. If you are trying to help someone, it’s not about you and what you think is best. Second, we (the hypnotists) have to have our own house in order. Meaning, we have to be present and at our best when working with a client, not down with them at their level. If you are offering assistance, you want to have energy that will model where they can be and help  bring them up to that higher level. Third, we (the hypnotists) can’t help anyone that doesn’t desire the change they are seeking. That may seem strange, but some people want others to make the change happen for them. We, nor you, can make anyone change. Trying to do the work for them deprives them of the learning they need to discover for themselves. Linda summed it up perfectly - “Before you can be the big firework in the sky, you need to be the sparkler in the hand of the one that desires the glow.”  We love to sparkle. Come glow with us! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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I was on my way to a college basketball game and as I handed the woman my ticket she said, “You’re Roberta Fernandez. Your presentation changed my life!” I was stunned, trying to connect recognition to the face, mumbled something like, “I’m so happy for you,” and was pushed forward by impatient fans from behind. I later went back to find her but she was gone. I never knew this woman. Recently I received a letter from someone I did know many years ago that said I had been the most influential business women in her life. I had no idea she felt that way. I don’t say these things as a pat on the back for me. As a hypnotist, I help people every day. I mention this because someone is always watching. You may never know how you might affect people that you come into contact with, even for the briefest of moments. It might be a co-worker, a child or a complete stranger. It is these times of our habitual living of life that we are most unaware of the impact of our actions or words. What kind of legacy are you leaving on your trail through life? I haven’t seen this bumper sticker in a while, but one day, on the car in front of me at a toll booth, I saw “Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty.” As I paid my 50 cent toll, I was inspired to give the man $5 for the next 9 people that came through. He must have not pocketed it for himself, as for about the next 3 miles, I had people honking and waving and smiling as they passed me. And it did more for me than it did for them. Just sayin……. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from the Apple store in the Big Apple of New York City, NY. It's my time to brag about what a great hypnotist Linda is - in her 4th year at The FARE Hypnosis Center. A fortunate client got this quote to think about last week and it's been resounding in my mind ever since. How does this resonate with you?
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Your connection to all things in life are of the utmost importance in our physical and mental health: Get a massage - physical touch positively alters your body chemistry Pet an animal - if you can’t own one, volunteer at a shelter and learn about unconditional love through animals. Hold a baby - watch the pure joy of the first time discovery, be it a smile, a sound, a new movement or taste Take a walk in nature alone - without a mobile device, to connect with nature. Notice the sky, the birds and animals, the plants and trees. Notice what you see, hear and smell. Listen to your own thoughts.  Do something that provides your body movement that it’s never done before - salsa dancing, hula hooping, skating, shooting pool, ride a roller coaster. Notice the sensations of movement as you experience it. Revel in the newness of it. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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We are in week 4 of exploring your inner self. This week I want you to remember yourself as a child. 

Go as far back into your memory as you can. Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give that younger you about your future?

Now put that advice into action. You may want to do this everyday for the week, focusing on a different aspect of your life.

I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.

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I was reading a short interview with Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. 
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Before I was a hypnotist I was a business consultant, working primarily in the areas of organizational change, sustainability and emotional intelligence. I do all of these things now for businesses and individuals. 
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