Tag Archives: Words/Thoughts/Beliefs

Linda and I were talking about techniques we use in helping our clients and I started thinking about three take-aways from that conversation that really apply to everyone. First, it’s not about us (the hypnotist). We are simply the guide with some pretty cool tools and processes. If you are trying to help someone, it’s not about you and what you think is best. Second, we (the hypnotists) have to have our own house in order. Meaning, we have to be present and at our best when working with a client, not down with them at their level. If you are offering assistance, you want to have energy that will model where they can be and help  bring them up to that higher level. Third, we (the hypnotists) can’t help anyone that doesn’t desire the change they are seeking. That may seem strange, but some people want others to make the change happen for them. We, nor you, can make anyone change. Trying to do the work for them deprives them of the learning they need to discover for themselves. Linda summed it up perfectly - “Before you can be the big firework in the sky, you need to be the sparkler in the hand of the one that desires the glow.”  We love to sparkle. Come glow with us! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from an Alaska Port. We are so free that we can choose bondage. What are you choosing - to stay anchored in port or to travel the wide open seas? It's always a choice.
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I was on my way to a college basketball game and as I handed the woman my ticket she said, “You’re Roberta Fernandez. Your presentation changed my life!” I was stunned, trying to connect recognition to the face, mumbled something like, “I’m so happy for you,” and was pushed forward by impatient fans from behind. I later went back to find her but she was gone. I never knew this woman. Recently I received a letter from someone I did know many years ago that said I had been the most influential business women in her life. I had no idea she felt that way. I don’t say these things as a pat on the back for me. As a hypnotist, I help people every day. I mention this because someone is always watching. You may never know how you might affect people that you come into contact with, even for the briefest of moments. It might be a co-worker, a child or a complete stranger. It is these times of our habitual living of life that we are most unaware of the impact of our actions or words. What kind of legacy are you leaving on your trail through life? I haven’t seen this bumper sticker in a while, but one day, on the car in front of me at a toll booth, I saw “Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty.” As I paid my 50 cent toll, I was inspired to give the man $5 for the next 9 people that came through. He must have not pocketed it for himself, as for about the next 3 miles, I had people honking and waving and smiling as they passed me. And it did more for me than it did for them. Just sayin……. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from Canyonlands National Park in Utah. Oh, I LOVE this quote! We spend way too much time focused upon what is - especially when we don't like what is. What we focus on expands, so this quote sums it up nicely - create the story you want.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from the Apple store in the Big Apple of New York City, NY. It's my time to brag about what a great hypnotist Linda is - in her 4th year at The FARE Hypnosis Center. A fortunate client got this quote to think about last week and it's been resounding in my mind ever since. How does this resonate with you?
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Probably the most important conversations you have are the ones you have with yourself. They can be the most productive or the most damaging. We create what’s called arbitrary relational frames in our mind. Let me give you an example: Look around you and pick an object near you. Now choose one more thing in your space. Got them? Now, of the two objects, which is better? Go ahead - make a case for why one is better than the other. Of the the two objects, which is the parent and why? (Which came first?) I chose a shoe and a laser printer. And I’m sure, like me, you were able to completely logic the answers to each of those questions. I know I was quite satisfied with my answers. Here’s the point - You create everything from your perception and then make judgments about them -even if it doesn’t make sense or isn’t important.  What thoughts, beliefs and ideas do you hold that have been created arbitrarily, and though you’ve forced them to make sense in some way, no longer serve you? Sometimes it’s hard to let go of these things - and that’s where we can help. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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It’s more than likely that everyone of you watching has exchanged something at one time. You’ve easily exchanged a dress that didn’t fit for the right size, an awful tie you got for your birthday, or the baking soda you bought instead of the baking powder. It was really easy wasn’t it because you made a mistake or just wanted that item to satisfy you. So perhaps it would be just as easy to think of exchanging an old worn out habit of thought or action that doesn’t serve you, for a fresh one that reflects who you want to be or that would satisfy you more. Exchange something that restricts your health or relationships for something open and able to create abundance, growth and joy. And all of these exchanges add up, and they become expectations. And then they become habits or beliefs. Remember, a belief is just something you keep thinking over and over again. And you know you can change exchange your thoughts any time. Change your thoughts, change your mind, change your life. We can help with that! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today's Friday Photo comes from Zion Canyon in Utah. I was feeling awe and wonder with this huge slab of rock so beautiful above me, though there were a variety of feelings I could have chosen. The fact is that you have the power to chose whatever you want to feel. Perhaps it is really the only thing you have control over. And perhaps, there isn't much else that's more important than that.......
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Feel like you are always pedaling uphill, or worse yet, your chain has come off and you are stuck where you are on your path? There are many things that can keep you stuck. Stuck in worry or fear or pain, or because of these things, in a lack of sleep. Stuck with unwanted habits like improper eating, smoking, or other activities that are really just distractors for dealing with something you don’t want to address. Stuck with old, out-dated beliefs that may have served you at one time but now, well, just keep you stuck in a place you no longer desire to be. Stuck not feeling the way you want to feel about yourself or living the life you want to live. Perhaps you are doing ok but want to be the best possible version of yourself - to ride at you optimum level of performance. At The FARE Hypnosis Center we work with you in a variety of ways to put your bike on the path wherever you are and head downhill toward your goals. Some clients want to dig in and figure it all out - to get to the bottom of things. Some want to just let the past go and move toward the future. Some want to be inspired, to be connected with their true potential. No matter where you are on your path, we’re going to guide you to the path of least resistance, in exactly the way that works best for you. We are like the bike - we can take you in the direction you want to go, but you have to steer and peddle. If you are ready to change gears, to change your direction towards living the life you want, call us or book your appointment on our website today - and let us guide you up to the speed that’s best for you. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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