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Did you know that the extraordinary is the ordinary? What makes the ordinary extraordinary is your perspective.  Take your lungs, for example. They aren’t particularly beautiful to look at, everyone has them and for the most part you don’t even think of them. But behind the scenes, they breathe - they give you life. And the story you tell about anything in your life, from the perspective you tell it, can take the mundane and ordinary to the extraordinary. When was the last time you simply noticed the moon in the sky, the birds flying over your car on the way to work, watched a child engrossed in the joy of a simple game, or smelled the lilacs or evergreen on your morning walk? Take time to be present in the moment. Look at something you take for granted and shift it into a new perspective - one of gratitude. Notice how it feels now. Or take an unhappy or unwanted story you’ve been telling for a long time (it’s all about what you don’t want or like) and reshape it to discover what that story tells you about what you DO want. Then vow to always substitute the new version for the old. Watch what happens. Sometime this week, sit down and make a list of everything in your life you think of as ordinary. Then, for each item, shift your perspective to find the extraordinary. Guess what - it’s been there all the time! This is what good hypnotists do with clients everyday. We help you change your perspective to help you see that your ordinary life can be as extraordinary as you want it to be! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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In all of our hypnosis work we utilize the power of forgiveness. This doesn’t mean you condone something that someone has done to you, it means that you set yourself free from it.  And now, a 2014 study published in the Journal of Health Psychology, confirms it. Being forgiving to yourself and others can protect against stress and the toll it takes on your health. Forgiveness is like a shield, both mentally and physically. Author of the study, Loren Toussaint, an associate professor of psychology at Luther College in Iowa, says, "It's almost entirely erased — it's statistically zero. If you don't have forgiving tendencies, you feel the raw effects of stress in an unmitigated way. You don't have a buffer against that stress.” And Toussaint believes that forgiveness can be learned.  And because that’s one of the most important things we do here, we can help! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Linda and I were talking about techniques we use in helping our clients and I started thinking about three take-aways from that conversation that really apply to everyone. First, it’s not about us (the hypnotist). We are simply the guide with some pretty cool tools and processes. If you are trying to help someone, it’s not about you and what you think is best. Second, we (the hypnotists) have to have our own house in order. Meaning, we have to be present and at our best when working with a client, not down with them at their level. If you are offering assistance, you want to have energy that will model where they can be and help  bring them up to that higher level. Third, we (the hypnotists) can’t help anyone that doesn’t desire the change they are seeking. That may seem strange, but some people want others to make the change happen for them. We, nor you, can make anyone change. Trying to do the work for them deprives them of the learning they need to discover for themselves. Linda summed it up perfectly - “Before you can be the big firework in the sky, you need to be the sparkler in the hand of the one that desires the glow.”  We love to sparkle. Come glow with us! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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I was on my way to a college basketball game and as I handed the woman my ticket she said, “You’re Roberta Fernandez. Your presentation changed my life!” I was stunned, trying to connect recognition to the face, mumbled something like, “I’m so happy for you,” and was pushed forward by impatient fans from behind. I later went back to find her but she was gone. I never knew this woman. Recently I received a letter from someone I did know many years ago that said I had been the most influential business women in her life. I had no idea she felt that way. I don’t say these things as a pat on the back for me. As a hypnotist, I help people every day. I mention this because someone is always watching. You may never know how you might affect people that you come into contact with, even for the briefest of moments. It might be a co-worker, a child or a complete stranger. It is these times of our habitual living of life that we are most unaware of the impact of our actions or words. What kind of legacy are you leaving on your trail through life? I haven’t seen this bumper sticker in a while, but one day, on the car in front of me at a toll booth, I saw “Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty.” As I paid my 50 cent toll, I was inspired to give the man $5 for the next 9 people that came through. He must have not pocketed it for himself, as for about the next 3 miles, I had people honking and waving and smiling as they passed me. And it did more for me than it did for them. Just sayin……. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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  Stress gets a bad rap - and for the most part, rightfully so. But there is a good kind of stress and it’s called Eustress.  We experience eustress at various times. Like riding a roller coaster, or giving that presentation of a lifetime. Oh, that adrenaline is pumping! When the event is over, your hormones, like adrenaline and cortisol goes back to normal. Unfortunately the stress we experience in our day to day tends to stay with us and those hormone levels stay high. And this can cause a multitude of physical and mental issues. The answer - Take a break from work to decompress and do something enjoyable every day. Practice gratitude to remind yourself of all the good things in life. Breathe - check out our free breathing technique in the resource section of our website. And tell yourself, if I’m breathing then I’m still ok! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Probably the most important conversations you have are the ones you have with yourself. They can be the most productive or the most damaging. We create what’s called arbitrary relational frames in our mind. Let me give you an example: Look around you and pick an object near you. Now choose one more thing in your space. Got them? Now, of the two objects, which is better? Go ahead - make a case for why one is better than the other. Of the the two objects, which is the parent and why? (Which came first?) I chose a shoe and a laser printer. And I’m sure, like me, you were able to completely logic the answers to each of those questions. I know I was quite satisfied with my answers. Here’s the point - You create everything from your perception and then make judgments about them -even if it doesn’t make sense or isn’t important.  What thoughts, beliefs and ideas do you hold that have been created arbitrarily, and though you’ve forced them to make sense in some way, no longer serve you? Sometimes it’s hard to let go of these things - and that’s where we can help. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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It’s more than likely that everyone of you watching has exchanged something at one time. You’ve easily exchanged a dress that didn’t fit for the right size, an awful tie you got for your birthday, or the baking soda you bought instead of the baking powder. It was really easy wasn’t it because you made a mistake or just wanted that item to satisfy you. So perhaps it would be just as easy to think of exchanging an old worn out habit of thought or action that doesn’t serve you, for a fresh one that reflects who you want to be or that would satisfy you more. Exchange something that restricts your health or relationships for something open and able to create abundance, growth and joy. And all of these exchanges add up, and they become expectations. And then they become habits or beliefs. Remember, a belief is just something you keep thinking over and over again. And you know you can change exchange your thoughts any time. Change your thoughts, change your mind, change your life. We can help with that! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Feel like you are always pedaling uphill, or worse yet, your chain has come off and you are stuck where you are on your path? There are many things that can keep you stuck. Stuck in worry or fear or pain, or because of these things, in a lack of sleep. Stuck with unwanted habits like improper eating, smoking, or other activities that are really just distractors for dealing with something you don’t want to address. Stuck with old, out-dated beliefs that may have served you at one time but now, well, just keep you stuck in a place you no longer desire to be. Stuck not feeling the way you want to feel about yourself or living the life you want to live. Perhaps you are doing ok but want to be the best possible version of yourself - to ride at you optimum level of performance. At The FARE Hypnosis Center we work with you in a variety of ways to put your bike on the path wherever you are and head downhill toward your goals. Some clients want to dig in and figure it all out - to get to the bottom of things. Some want to just let the past go and move toward the future. Some want to be inspired, to be connected with their true potential. No matter where you are on your path, we’re going to guide you to the path of least resistance, in exactly the way that works best for you. We are like the bike - we can take you in the direction you want to go, but you have to steer and peddle. If you are ready to change gears, to change your direction towards living the life you want, call us or book your appointment on our website today - and let us guide you up to the speed that’s best for you. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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What is the secret sauce that makes hypnosis successful? First, it’s not all about the hypnotist. Of course you want your hypnotist to have quality and extensive training and experience so they know the best tools to employ during your sessions. But a hypnotist cannot control the outcome you receive. You must be a willing participant in the process.  There are 4 criteria I look for in determining if a client is really ready to accomplish their goals and if hypnosis is the right modality for them: The first is their Desire for the change. They don’t have to believe hypnosis will work, but they have to want the change - for themselves, not because of anyone else. The second is Effort. The client has to be willing to do the work: to be honest with themselves, to let emotions arise, to journal or do homework, to practice techniques we teach. A hypnotist cannot do the work for the client - they cannot take a magic wand and hypo it out of you! Yes, their experience and flexibility is important, as hypnosis is a combination of science and art, but the client has to do their part. The 3rd criteria is Introspection. Insights are always a part of a hypnosis session and it’s important to continue to connect the dots after the session is over. A client should examine what was learned and look how those insights have played out during their life.  And finally, Conscious Action is necessary. While the session is spent working in the subconscious mind, the conscious mind is essential in the follow up. Insights are important for shifting beliefs and gaining understanding and awareness, but then the conscious mind must make different choices. The client has to implement the new choices they’ve discovered - the hypnotist can’t do that for them! Hypnotists WISH they could wave the hypo-wand and everything would be done. But that just isn’t how it works. But here’s the good part - because hypnosis  happens in the subconscious mind - the part where all the old worn-out beliefs and rules are that are keeping you stuck - it’s so much more efficient than working on it in the conscious mind. Bottom line - want it, take inspired action, and watch it happen! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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From time to time we’ll have clients who say they inherited their mother’s fear of driving, or they - the client, mom and  sister - all get motion sickness in the car, or perhaps they  they inherited same fear of spiders that their dad and brother have. Sometime emotions like fear, and certain physical behaviors are mistaken for learned behaviors. When you are young you may form a certain belief, like every time you ride in a car you get motion sickness. You see that it happens to Mom, so it must be true for you, too. You see mom get sick, so now it is really true. Then you observe how mom copes - she has to have a window open, or she has to be sure she doesn’t eat an hour before the car ride, or smell anything bad during the ride. And wow, it’s true for you, too. And you know it because you didn’t open the window one time and you got sick. And all of these ideas build. Then they become expectations. And then they become habits. A belief is then confirmed because it happens again and again.  Here’s the rub - a belief is just something you keep thinking over and over again. And you know you can change your thoughts any time. I laid the green sweater out last night, and look what I put on this morning. Change your thoughts, change your mind, change your life. We can help with that! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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