Anger is one of the most interesting and powerful emotions people feel. And I believe it’s one of the most misunderstood emotions.
A quick internet search yields lots of definitions: A perceived provocation, hurt or threat (I’d say that’s fear, not anger), another dividing anger into 3 types: passive aggression, open aggression and assertive anger (which sounds more like how one is exhibiting behavior around anger, not really what anger is); yet another describing it as a secondary emotion, which can be true, but it can also be a primary emotion. Very seldom is there only one emotion involved in any circumstance. Frankly, I believe all the negative emotions we perceive stem from fear.
All emotions are indicators of something desired or needed. When you feel the emotion of anger, you have the perception that something isn’t fair.
So how do you deal with that anger? First you have to be sure that it is justified and based in reality. Perhaps you are really tired and hungry and you lash out at someone. Your body is creating unpleasant feelings because it cannot generate enough energy. These feelings are misunderstood and because you have a learned behavior of anger, it is what you do to try to satisfy this need to feel better.
If the anger is based in reality, meaning the situation is unfair, the solution is always to see if it can be made fair or if some understanding can be reached.
When dealing with any emotion, it’s important to understand what they are trying to tell you, why they exist, and what you can do to satisfy them. And at times, this can be challenging to do when you are in the middle of it – not being able to see the forest from the trees. Hypnosis can help.
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control, by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.