Today I’m talking about the difference between shame and guilt. These are two emotions that people confuse and it is critical to understand the difference.
Shame says, “I am bad.” It’s a focus on the self and it corrodes that part of us that believes we can change.
Guilt says, “I’ve done something bad.” It’s more about the behavior, not the person.
This is especially important with young children (tomorrow night is a free workshop – Parent’s Are Hypnotists, Too at 6pm), as they are always in a state of hypnosis. Joey’s just been caught in a lie. Mom can say “Joey, lying is not ok,” or she can say, “Joey, you’re a liar.” How does that feel.
The first is about his behavior, the second tells Joey that HE is bad. If he’s told this often enough, he starts to believe that he’s a liar.
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.