We’re continuing our discussion about feelings with the topic of distractors. Feelings are at the core of just about everything that happens with my clients.
People ask where I get all of this information. I’m constantly reading and taking classes and I’m always learning from my clients. They all have something to teach me. This information that I’m talking about comes mostly from this book, The Secret Language of Feelings by Calvin Banyan. Cal does a great job of putting things in perspective and keeping it simple. I recommend this book to all of my clients.
What do we use the we get a feeling and we choose to ignore it. Cal calls them distractors. Distractors come in many forms – eating, drinking, shopping, working too much, gambling. The problem with distractors is that they actually work for a short period of time.
But there is no amount of food that we could put into our mouth that could make us feel less lonely. There is no amount of alcohol that we can drink to make us feel less angry. There is no amount of shopping or gambling that can makes feel less lonely.
When we don’t address the real need, want or desire, those feelings stay unsatisfied and they keep trying and trying to come to the surface. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to keep them inside of us, and sooner or later, the feeling has to express itself in some way. Our bodies simply cannot keep them inside forever.
Next week we’ll talk more about these feelings.
I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.