Video Blog

Today I’m talking about the difference between shame and guilt. These are two emotions that people confuse and it is critical to understand the difference. Shame says, “I am bad.” It’s a focus on the self and it corrodes that part of us that believes we can change. Guilt says, “I’ve done something bad.” It’s more about the behavior, not the person. This is especially important with young children (tomorrow night is a free workshop - Parent’s Are Hypnotists, Too at 6pm), as they are always in a state of hypnosis. Joey’s just been caught in a lie. Mom can say “Joey, lying is not ok,” or she can say, “Joey, you’re a liar.” How does that feel. The first is about his behavior, the second tells Joey that HE is bad. If he’s told this often enough, he starts to believe that he’s a liar. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Today I’m talking about opioids, a topic I’ve had on this blog before. A couple of weeks ago was National Opioid Awareness Week in Minnesota. It’s not just there, but across the country. When I published my book 8 months ago, Breaking Free from Pain and Opioids: Discovering the Hypnosis Option, 78 people died each day from prescription opioids and heroin. Today it is 91 people each day.  Hypnosis is a viable alternative for pain management with no addiction or negative side effects. The worse that can happen is that it doesn’t work. Our legislators need help. They can curb how many prescriptions doctors write, but they aren’t offering other solutions because they aren’t aware. Many of my clients want to know what they can do - write your representatives and senators and tell them that there are other options for them to explore. Hypnosis isn’t the only answer or the entire answer, but it is a piece of the puzzle. For those of you that have had a loved one or someone you know that is addicted to opioids, this is an opportunity for you to do something about it! I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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I’m on a retreat with a few other women hypnotists - A meeting of the minds so to speak. I thought I’d post something a past client of mine sent me. She knows I love stories so I thought I’d share what she sent to me:
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108 - March Madness March Madness isn’t just about basketball! Here at the Center we have SO much going on: Minding Your Health: 4th - Roxann Keyes - Trauma Touch Massage 11th - Parents are Hypnotists, Too workshop preview 18th - Parenting Teens with therapist Sara Nuahn 25th - Parenting Through Divorce 1st - April - Parenting and Careers Free Public Workshops: Hypnosis is a Natural State of Mind  - March 21st at noon Parents are Hypnotists, too! - March 21st 6pm 7th Path Self Hypnosis classes: Basic - 6pm     March 15, 22 and 29th Advanced - 12:30 - 3:30pm     March 11th Hypnotic Gastric Band Weight Loss Class: Monday nights starting March 6 - April 17th FARE 1.0 Hypnosis Training - March 17th - 4 weekends in a row Don’t forget to join me this Saturday and call in with your questions - online or on the radio - at 10 am for ‘Minding’ Your Health - Take Back Control on AM950 radio. Or check out the podcasts for free on The FARE Hypnosis Center’s online store. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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As a hypnotist, I’m keenly aware of the power of words. The last couple of weeks we’ve been talking about the words “I’m sorry.” A few of you wrote with alternatives in reacting to ‘bad’ news. 
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Last week we talked about apologizing in a way that shared our gratitude instead of negativity. What about saying “I’m Sorry” when we really aren’t sorry. You know what I mean - someone tells you sad news  or something terrible and you automatically say “I’m sorry”.  “I had to put my dog to sleep.” or “My child is going to have to repeat the 5th grade.” or “I have cancer.”  We shouldn’t be apologizing, but we don’t know what else to say. Sorry can be used to express pity, regret, or sadness, but most often the word doesn’t convey what we’d like. I’ve actually had people say, “There’s no need to be sorry. You didn’t do anything.” Sound familiar?  I’ve been thinking about how to reframe this automatic response and I thought I’d put this out there to you, my listening audience. Obviously various scenarios may require specific responses, choosing another word, perhaps. I’m wondering, what’s another way to express ourselves in reacting to ‘bad’ news other than saying, “I’m sorry”? Email me your thoughts about this and I’ll follow up with another blog.  Don’t forget to join me this Saturday and call in with your questions - online or on the radio - at 10 am for ‘Minding’ Your Health - Take Back Control on AM950 radio. Or check out the podcasts for free on The FARE Hypnosis Center’s online store. I’m Roberta Fernandez, a Board Certified Hypnotist and Certified Trainer at The FARE Hypnosis Center, helping you take back control by unlocking the power of your mind to reach your goals of any kind.
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Last week we talked about the negativity bias. A past client of mine sent me something interesting that I want to share with you and I think it’s a perfect extension of last week’s blog. “I’m sorry.” We use these words in many ways (i’ll talk about another next week), but today we’ll focus on apologizing.
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There’s a section on my intake form for new clients that asks them to list 7 positive benefits they’d like to receive from their sessions. Invariably I get responses like feel less stress, learn to hate fast food, or be less of a couch potato. They don’t sound like very positive benefits do they?
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Two Saturdays ago on Minding Your Health, my radio show on 950AM, I talked with 2 doctors about thinking outside of the box on healthcare, and the importance of our personal ability and responsibility to play a role in our own care. Are you in or out? And who’s in control of your box?
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I attended an amazing talk this week by Vikas Narula, founder of Keyhubs. Vikas has created a software program that provides insights on influence of people and projects from informal networks within organizations. He talked about how typical hierarchies in organizations and groups cause division, but informal networks can serve to bridge those divides.
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